The Active Christian

So am up this wee hours of the morning thinking to myself… ‘what is it about christians being over dependent? why is it that as christians we are lazy people? Why do we always refuse fight for what we want? Why does the world see us and term us lazy’?
These thoughts quickly kick started my researching prowess (not bragging!!! am just good like that).
Researching into this study, my first point of call was the bible because I needed to understand how “believer-ship” was done in old times before and after christ came. I try to look at 3 characters each from the old and new testament in six series, I then try to relate it to what we have these days and finally posit some recommendations. So here we go!!!
For the first series,  my first point of call was the book of Esther, my attention was particularly drawn to mordecai. Although everybody acknowledges Esther for her bravery and courage, however all that didn’t fall far from its source (in this case uncle mordecai). In Esther 2:11, We can see here how mordecai enlisted his niece into the contest. Of course he knew she was beautiful, of course he knew she could turn heads ( even hegai the women keeper was pleased with her). Knowing all these didn’t stop mordecai from doing the needful , he practically took on active role as Esther’s mentor n guide. Meaning he didn’t sit around for manna to fall, he took the bulls by the horn and charted its course. Unlike what we have today where christians refuse to do anything but wait for God to move from heaven and do everything for them.
Furthermore, in Esther 4:4 we also saw how resilient mordecai was, despite the clothes and cheering Esther tried to offer him, he refused to comply. He had a purpose at that gate and wouldn’t leave until the problems at hand was solved. Which unlike christians these days who first of all don’t know what they want and how they can get it ( how can we even get anything when we refuse to help others who in turn can help us when the need arises). Christians these days just cant be bothered by anything, we refuse to take steps, to make change or to be key players of destiny.
In addition to this, mordecai was bold enough to tell Esther the truth in Esther 4:13-14 ( no go believe say u go free ooo, na all of us go kukuma die here!!!). He demonstrated courage to tell the truth even if it was the bitter truth. He knocked some sense into Esther’s very comfortable and relaxed head. Unlike christians these days who are even afraid to offend their own shadows, for fear of its repercussion 
Noteworthy also is the sacrifice mordecai made to save d king, he could have been killed but he refused to keep quiet and let it slide like most christians do these days, he spoke up without having any thoughts of compensation in mind and God came through for him in the whole of Esther 6.
Key take home points
Mordecai saw opportunities available for himself and his people, and he took it.
Mordecai wasn’t a non-challant child of God. He knew what God was supposed to do and he knew what he was supposed to do
Mordecai had strength, courage, dignity,
boldness and integrity.
The painful thing with today’s christians is that we have let the world learn this important facts while we ourselves refuse to put these lessons into action. We are busy playing religious politics while neglecting the politics of life. Un believers know these principles and apply it and succeed while we busy ourselves teaching and not practising.
Recommendation
Recommendation is made for immediate sit up and re evaluation. Don’t be a looker, be a doer.
Alright I am tired of typing while hubby is enjoying his sleep alone. Lemme gan rest my beautiful head a while till I think of the next character to study. See you guys in the next series. Until then, keep the fire burning and keep kinging!!!

Your arguments against breastfeeding in public. They are invalid.

Public Breastfeeding yay or nay

Mummy Spits the Dummy

I’m sorry, everyone. I never intended for this to be a breastfeeding advocacy blog, but – y’know. Boobs and their baggage are things that predominate my life at the moment, so…

You’ve probably read about Cheese & Biscuits cafe in Rockhampton, who kicked a massive goal for breastfeeding mothers this week by politely ejecting a customer who was frightened by the sight of a lactating breast in their courtyard. He’d already complained to management, who’d informed him they were a breastfeeding friendly establishment and that they would under no circumstances ask a nursing mother to cover up or leave. He then took it upon himself to approach her, leaving her visibly upset when the owner came out to deliver his coffee. When apprised of the situation, the owner swiftly transferred the man’s coffee to a takeaway cup and showed him the door. She later posted about the incident on Facebook:

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Proven and tested ways to effective public speaking

10 PROVEN WAYS TO NAIL PUBLIC SPEAKING
Don’t pull a Gwynnie…
Public speaking ranks as one of the nations biggest
phobias, according to a YouGov survey released earlier
this year.
Here are 10 ways to help you embrace the critical glare of
an anticipant audience:
PRETEND YOU’RE SOMEONE ELSE
According to psychology professor Thomas Plante from
Santa Clara University, people can overcome anxiety over
public speaking by thinking of a confident public speaker
they admire – then pretending to be an actor playing that
person.
It may seem like quite a complicated exercise in self-
deception, but he says that by channelling your inner
actor, your behaviour will follow your forced actions.
“Research, as well as best clinical practices, has
demonstrated that if you can behave in a particular way
(e.g., confident, comfortable) then your feelings will
follow your behaviour,” he wrote in Psychology Today .
“For example, force a smile or laugh and you’ll likely feel
a little better. Force a frown and you’ll likely feel a little
worse. In a nutshell, if you can act like a comfortable and
confident speaker (even if you don’t feel that way) you’ll
find that you’ll start to feel comfortable and confident
over time.”
CREATE A ‘PERSONAL STYLE’
Winston Churchill was one of the greatest orators of the
20th century, but public speaking didn’t come naturally to
the late prime minister.
His stammer and lisp caused him much anxiety and were
traits he feared would hold him back in politics.
To get round this he created what is described by leading
Churchill commentator David Cannadine in his book In
Churchill’s Shadow , as a “personal style”.
He chose “unusual words and phrases so as to avoid the
treacherous rhythm of everyday speech” and studied the
speeches of a range of great orators, mixing their most
distinctive traits with his own delivery.
MEDITATE TO REDUCE NERVES
Instead of panicking before your big speech, book a
meeting room, close the blinds and tell everyone you’re on
a ‘important call’. Then tap into some much-needed inner
peace with a spot of quiet meditation for half an hour. A
study by researchers at the Johns Hopkins University
School of Medicine in Baltimore found it helps people to
alleviate anxiety and depression.
“A lot of people use meditation, but it’s not a practice
considered part of mainstream medical therapy for
anything,” said the university’s Madhav Goyal. “But in our
study, meditation appeared to provide as much relief from
some anxiety and depression symptoms as what other
studies have found from antidepressants.”
GET A LAVENDER MASSAGE
Standing up to face people in a presentation situation
makes most people restless and nervous but scientific
evidence cited by the University of Maryland Medical
Center suggests that aromatherapy with lavender can slow
down the nervous system and reduce anxiety.
Not only that, but it’s also been found to lift and stabilise
mood and enhance concentration.
Rather than simply inhaling a whiff of lavender oil before
stepping onto the podium, book a massage. [ Studies
suggest that getting a rubdown with the oil is particularly
effective in combating nerves.
HAVE A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP…FOR A LIVELY
VOICE
Don’t even think about missing out on sleep to practice
your speech – researchers have found that people’s voice
“flattens” after being awake for too long.
Research from the University of Melbourne found that the
more tired we are, the less control we have over our
speech muscles – slowing our voices down and and
diminishing the gravity of tone.
“Individual voice patterns diminish the more tired you
become, so you lose your voice personality, you become a
bit flatter,” acoustician Dr Adam Vogel told the Sydney
Morning Herald .
TAKE TIPS FROM THE EXPERTS
You could do worse than take advice from Barack Obama.
Handily, the President’s debate trainers offered some ultra
professional tips in their book last year Double Down.
Public Speaking Truth summarises and analyses the
advice here.
GET EXCITED
You’ve got to do a speech – yay! That may not be your
natural reaction to public speaking, but according to a
study by the American Psychological Association, people
who tell themselves to get excited before a speech, rather
than trying to relax, can improve their performance.
“Anxiety is incredibly pervasive. People have a very
strong intuition that trying to calm down is the best way
to cope with their anxiety, but that can be very difficult
and ineffective,” said study author Dr Alison Wood Brooks,
of Harvard Business School. “When people feel anxious
and try to calm down, they are thinking about all the
things that could go badly. When they are excited, they are
thinking about how things could go well.”
CHANNEL YOUR FEAR
Stage fright isn’t a bad thing – in fact it can be used to
your advantage before a big speech, according to
psychologists from the University of Rochester .
“The problem is that we think all stress is bad, ” lead
author Jeremy Jamieson, explained. “We see headlines
about ‘Killer Stress’ and talk about being ‘stressed out.'”
Before speaking in public, people often interpret stress
sensations, like butterflies in the stomach, as a warning
that something bad is about to happen.
“But those feelings just mean that our body is preparing to
address a demanding situation. The body is marshaling
resources, pumping more blood to our major muscle
groups and delivering more oxygen to our brains.”
In other words, some fear is natural and helps us perform
better under the glare of an audience.
TALK TO YOURSELF
In an age of bluetooth headsets, muttering to yourself as
you wander down the street is perfectly acceptable – and
according to experts “Self-talk” can have a positive,
motivational effect.
“We all do it, whether we’re aware of it or not,” Dr.
Elizabeth Bernstein told the Wall Street Journal . “Athletes
do it all the time and we can learn from them. They talk
themselves through the task.”
She advises keeping it short, precise and consistent and –
this sounds a little odd – says we should address ourselves
by our first name, rather than “I”, to add “distance”.
A TIPPLE’S NOT OUT OF THE QUESTION
Amanda Seyfried admitted in 2012 that she indulged in a
small alcoholic sharpener before appearing on a talk-show
to get her through her stage fright.
“I understand that I have a problem, maybe,” she joked.
“But you know what? It really gets me through.”
Obviously we’re not advocating using alcohol as a crutch
before your next big speech though – especially if it’s a
work presentation.

Food for thought

This is something to think about:  4 WIVES

Once upon  a time there was a rich King who had four wives.

He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always
showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that  one day she would leave him for another.

He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.

The King’s 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her!

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short.
He thought of his luxurious life and wondered, I now have
four wives with me, but when I die, I’ll be all alone.”

Thus, he asked the 4th wife , “I loved you the most,
endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No way!”, replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, “I loved you all my
life. Now that I’m dying,will you follow me and keep me
company?”

“No!”, replied the 3rd wife. “Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to remarry!”
His heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!”, replied the 2nd wife.  “At the very most,I can only walk with you to your grave.”

Her answer struck him like a bolt of lightning, and the
King was devastated.  Then a voice called out: “I’ll go with you. I’ll follow you  no matter where you go.”

The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was
very skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the King said, “I should have taken much
better care of you when I had the chance!”

In truth, we all have the 4 wives in our lives:

Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and
effort we lavish in making it look good, it will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die,  it will all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay  by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of
wealth, power   pleasures of the world.

However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us
where ever we go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow   to the
throne  of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.

Thought for the day: Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.

SERIOUS MARITAL ADVICE

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.